Fight back!  This is your life someone is messing with. Right now you are facing at least two adversaries. The attorney for the mom will call Child Protective Services (CPS). CPS will listen to the mom's attorney.  If CPS hears about alleged child molestation, CPS will, inform the district attorney's office.

If so, you are now fighting on two fronts, and one of them is criminal.

If a child's attorney is appointed, she or he may get one-sided information. They often will not be talking to you.

You face adversaries joined in an effort to beat you to a frazzle.  Help your lawyer. Prove your case. Get affadavits of your good character from friends, co-workers, and clergy- from anyone who knows you that is willing to help you.

Work with your lawyer to prepare a motion and discovery plan. This plan is the basis of your case. It is designed to keep out the evidence that is prejudicial or irrelevant to your case and to make sure that the evidence you want before the court is admissible.

Work with your lawyer to prepare an investigation to support your ability to respond to the logical question in everyone's minds: If there was no molestation, why is the child (or children) saying there was?  You must develop with your lawyer a theory of the case. This includes which witnesses to interview, what issues need to be covered, and what sequence those issues should take. The five W's--who, what, where, when, why--need to be addressed.

Finally, your lawyer must determine if the prosecutor will be using expert witnesses and whether you should retain one. The experts most frequently used are mental health experts and medical experts.